Even though they are geographically close to each other, Koreans and Japanese have many cultural differences. Our interviewee will discuss what a Korean man views about Korean women, Japanese women, and their view of marriage in Japan. The following is an opinion based on the personal experience of the interviewee.
Honestly, I was really happy. Parents don't allow much. If you are of age to be in school or university, you are most likely living with your parents. Even if you go to college away from your parents, parents often come to see you, so it is difficult to hide the relationship or living status.
It is common for Korean couples to be frequently in touch when they are dating because they do not live together. Couples let each other know a lot by text such as, "Woke up in the morning," "Got on the train," "What are you going to eat now? Korean women would rather be called beautiful.
Japanese fashion has cute ribbons and laces which I would feel a little uncomfortable with in Korea. This tendency may be unique to cute-centric Japan. When I asked our interviewee what his type was, he replied that he likes "Chill, pretty girls, but they have to be pretty on the inside too! Whereas with Japanese women, it seems to be less about outdoing everyone, or having to do everything for themselves. It seems very pure. It is good to study for a year in an English-speaking country in college.
In comparison, you might go as far to say that Japanese women don't have it quite as tough. I have never thought that she was ungrateful. While this relationship is neat, this man felt that Japan was superior in this context. Japanese people are always thankful when exchanging gifts or when making requests. That seems to happen a lot less in Japan. Many children would contact them once a week if they were away from home.
In Japan, it is less common to contact once a week without a specific reason for the call. However, parents will surely be delighted to communicate as much as possible, as in Korea. In Korea, there are usually two mains, such as soup and fish, and three to four side dishes. Certainly, at a Korean restaurant, when you get to the seat, several kinds of Namul and Kimchi will come out as a matter of course. On the other hand, at the Japanese dining table, rice and miso soup and the three main dishes were a bit disappointing.
These are very difficult to prepare. In order to capture the hearts of Korean men, it would be nice to have a stock of pre-made recipes. The meals are not spicy for me at all. The ingredients in Japan are generally mild and bland, so relatives sometimes send spices to Koreans in Japan. I'm fine with the particulars, but I'd like you to stop asking people for it. And the manners of the meal!
There are many differences between Korea and Japan, so I can't help In particular, the rules of the meal can be difficult. In Korea, it is OK to have an elbow on the table or make a noise while eating, but in Japan it is not good. If you pay attention to these points, the differences are quite trying. Hmm my experience has been different.
I felt bad for assuming he was just another Korean guy who wanted to look cool by paying for everything. He is a working man, after all, and he is frugal with his money. All guys are different and although the dating culture in Korea sets standards for guys to be chivalrous and show off their money or whatever, of course not all guys will fit this type. I do love wearing couple-wear, though and I see a ton of couples in Korea wearing couple tees and holding hands. Wow I have a Korean boyfriend and he exactly acts like yours lol i always tell him to dress up : he pays everything though but I get him some nice gifts so we are kind a even ; he always texting me on kakao talk and he never calls me on the phone is that normal?
Some times there is so annoying though! I am a fully spanish woman raised in United States. California to be exact. And I have a Korean boyfriend with whom ive been dating for a few months now. And I can agree that korean men do move along fast in relationships. I have always preferred to date asian men, and have had about 3 asian korean boyfriends.
My first was terrible because he moved way too fast and was saying I love you within a couple weeks. I feel sad because I know its not common for people to accept interracial relationships let alone spanish and asians dating. I try to find advice on this but it seems like I am the only spanish woman attracted to koreans. Anyway I just hope that if things get serious that his family will accept me and my 4 year old daughter.
Because he does. By Spanish do you mean like Hispanic. It just sounds like it will be a disaster T-T However something that really intrigued me is that they move fast? Hi your not the only one. Thanks for sharing your story it was helpful.
Anyhow I wish you the best of luck. And just remember All things are possible! Never lose your faith!! Thanks for letting us know your a Cali girl, I am, too. Cali girl keep us updated, too. This was very well written though. Ara — thanks for the great feedback and also letting me know beforehand. I used to live in Makati, and I know the Korean Community there is huge! I think it has to do with our Cultures and how guys were brought up. Most guys were brought up by their mom to respect woman, treat them good.
I have to pay extra tips, to me dont waste my time. Respect, great personality, being caring, hardworking do well are good qualities to have. Dating a Korean guy seems a little different from dating a Japanese guy. I have been dating mine for some time and we have been living together for four years and a half.
We are about to get married. I have to say Japanese guys, the one who studied abroad are different. What I personally appreciate no kissing in public and no holding hands like to announce to the world being a couple. I am past that phase, we declare our commitment with private life insurances, taking care of health, buying houses, blah blah…-. Hi, I am Sun and from S Korea. I sent a e-mail : I think I can help you about your questions.
Super nice guy, understands the western culture more than most, great English. I agreed. Whilst the dress I can deal with, the full outfit freaks me out! Is this kind of thing normal? I have a Korean bf in Singapore. Is it Korean guy afraid to meet my parent?
But after 6 months he is okay to meet my parent so what is shown to my bf interest? I honestly relate to this. He tells me its a sign of his love tho. Overall, koreans are the sweetest boyfriends. Reality about korean guys: never date THEM! Pure acting! Oh pulleeaaze. Hi everyone , am from Nigeria, just want to ask if Its possible for a Korean to date someone from Africa.
Am really obsessed with Korean guys. I think dating a Korean guy is a good idea for women. We Koreans quite falsely think white guys or even Chinese guys are more affectionate and more chivalrous and Korean women want us to be more like them.
So we tend to overcompensate. I am a Korean guy and have dated both Korean and foreign girls, I personally prefer foreign girls. I think they are more independent and make a better life partner. In general terms everything you wrote is truly correctly and real. What it is not mentioned in the article tho, is the fact that Korean guys become totally other persons after they stay in long-terms relationships or even when they get married.
I dated a Korean guy and I ended to marry with him exactly because of all the facts that you mentioned in the article. Always careful, polite, lovely, cute, did everything for me even my bag he was carrying all along. But after we married I had the impression that I married another guy…totally! All the nice hair styles and clothes were changed into wearing a cap, a pair of jeans and a t-shirt.
Every time I blamed him that he changed and not only about appearance but also the behavior. Now it is not a problem for him if he sees me carrying groceries on the stairs because in his opinion women and men have same rights and duties. Thank you for the reply MissT : We are struggling to make it better because above all the cultural issues and argues, we still love each other, but I admit that I still find difficult to be married with a person from another country. On another website I just read that the youth in korea does not really care about the personality nowadays when they are in a relationship is that true?
He was quick to ask me to be his gf and later wife. We are not married yet. He just calls me his wife. I met him in person and all the questions were answered. His lifestyle of being a business man and the working hours were cleared when I met him in person. Through my experience I have to say he is a gentleman. Very protective and sincere.
Very logical and does not shy away from an argument. Will sit me down and say we need to talk about it. So he is a patient man and I am a true princess. Loves to kiss and does hold my hand in public. Many displays of affection. He is not into couple clothing since he always wears a suit. His parents are in the province and introduced me by face chat. His mom loves my big round eyes and lashes.
So I guess it is serious when you meet his parents. As for the girls here looking for a Korean boy friend because of k drama. They are romantic and sincere but they are men. So in any nationality they could be good or bad. My experience happened by chance. I went to a Korean dating site. Curiosity also. But my looking for friendship led to a wonderful relationship. Good luck to you all. And yes they do lie on the dating sites so chat away to get to know the real person.
Thank you for this really clarifying post! South Korea men do not respect women. Because they grow in a society where take it for granted that a man hit a woman. Korea is a country with serious gender discrimination like the countries of the Middle East. Thanks for foreigners who respect the Korea Culture. I just hope that they avoid the Korean guy. I mean, really??? I am wondering what is the real purpose of your comment ; to help foreigner girls or to make them false impression about Korean guys?
But even so, i could not stop being amazed how Korean women treat korean guys. They hold their bags, they are drivers for them. They have to also look cool, nice hair, nice clothes, be tall, be in good body shape…and now …for real??? They are almost like slaves.
They have many flaws of course, they are lazy, they are sometimes not too affective, they drink too much, they work too much, some of them they cheat…but beat and treat women like Middle East…I think you are too far. I also have many Korean girl friends who are saying they are afraid of foreigners, especially from Ukraine or Belarus, who looks so nice and pretty.
They are afraid that many korean guys will search for foreigners and start to not like korean women… Korean society gives to korean women a lot of rights these days and protect them a lot.. Just think about this…how many foreigners women you see on tv and how many foreigner guys you see on tv? Hi Khethiwe again from South Africa. She was treated disrespectful. She got hit from a man. Should I stop? Trying to get ideas too Interesting article.
Some day, I think it would be nice to even go there. I find there style to be pretty cool. I know very little about his personal life. Anyway, lately I feel like he intrigues me. He seems flirtatious towards all the girls I work with and I was wondering if maybe it had something to do with his sense of humor. If that makes sense. But lately I just find myself more and more curious by him. As a girl in my mid-teens, I am very curious as what it would be like dating a korean boy.
I read everything that you had to offer on here, and it has me intrigued. I just dont know where I would meet a korean boy aside from S. I am anxious to know what it is like, and think it would be a very good experience, aside from wanting to try something new. You wrote a really interesting and nice article. I also have my fair share of experience when it comes to Korean guys.
However, I am in a relationship with one. His character nails most of your points but not the couple thing. I like the idea of couple things but trying it is a matter we could talk about. Guys are guys — Korean guys they have flaws but they do their best to make their love ones happy. I had a thing with a Korean guy. I just wanted to know if this means things are over for us.
But before that everything we talked about was still normal and he acted normal for the most part. I have a korean boyfriend. We met on one of dating sites. So after a month of chatting. I decided to meet him, so after annual party in our company I ask him if he can fetch me so that we can also meet. I told him im starting to like him even before we met. So the time that we met, it just turned out that were on. He is my first boyfriend, he is my first kissed and evrything but we still didnt have sexual interaction.
Im just wondering cuz we really dont talk much, weve been on for two months now. I dont know if hes serious cuz we always text but nvr had interesting topic. Hes not calling me on my phone. We just talk in text. But when were together i feel that he loves me but when it comes to text i dont feel like he does.
We only see once a week. He always ask me where will we go. He cannot decide by his own. I dont know if hes serious or not. Please give me advise. I amm extremely impresseed together wwith your writingg abiloities ass well aas with the layut oon yourr blog.
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In fact, it only gets worse. Even though South Korea has experienced rapid industrialization, and is considered to be one of the Four Asian Tigers , its culture is still very traditional. Just imagine you meet someone you really like. You go on your first date and everything seems to be perfect. You have the same values, the same goals, and the same vision of the future.
Yes, Kissing in public is frowned upon, but showing your affection with smileys, text messages, and regular phone calls is completely normal. Every meal has to be photographed and uploaded on Facebook. And it takes another two minutes to upload the selfie on Instagram with the perfect hashtag. Koreans are extremely proud of their relationships and showing the world how happy they are is one of their biggest passions. You might hate it, but you have to get used to it.
In fact, being in a relationship is something to be proud of. They celebrate at least once a month. You will end up on YouTube and someone might even ask you if your better half is paying you to wear it. They are sold everywhere. Think twice before you laugh at the idea. One day you might come to Korea and fall in love with a local. Things to Do. Find good eats, restaurant reviews and neighborhoods known for good food here. The History of Soju and its Modernization.
Ready to Try on Some K-fashion? Need some help navigating Korea? Our library of How-To guides awaits! What is KaKaoTalk? The Complete Guide. March 1st: Independence Movement Day in Korea. Protected: Test Page. Now Week Month. Share Tweet. You know your situation better than we do! Dating culture in Korea is a little bit different than many other countries when it comes to the early stages of dating. There is no stigma against approaching a cute guy and making the first move.
Most Korean guys are big fans of constant communication via text message and instant messaging apps on their smart phones. Unlike dating cultures where there is a stigma against texting a romantic interest too soon for fear of seeming too interested or clingy, the norm in Korea is to be updating your significant other as often as possible.
Ah, one of the most awkward parts of the early stages of dating — should you reach for the bill after dinner? If he paid for dinner, should you offer to pay for drinks after or wait until the next date? Why does figuring out who pays for dinner feel like an intricate math problem? The old school approach is that the man should foot the bill for not only the first date, but also all subsequent dates.
The only downside to dating a Korean man who holds this belief is that occasionally, it can go hand and hand with being somewhat patronizing. A more modern approach to payment is also gaining ground in Korean dating culture. They put the rest of the world to shame when it comes to celebrating love!
Hello , chocolate and flowers! Korea also has a ton of national love holidays that are fun to celebrate.
But sogaeting is one of the most preferred ways to meet other singles. A group of guy friends will meet a group of girl friends to hangout and have a good time. Courtesy of Dustin Cole. Simple pecks might be tolerable to some, but most Koreans will refuse to be seen in public participating in one of those movie-style open mouth kisses. Holding hands and linking arms, however, are quite common. Want to read more about hugs in Korea? Now, who pays for what is up to debate for all couples around Korea.
Some old school Korean dudes pay for everything, but recently, many Korean women have been offering their share, too. So it really depends on the person. To the dismay of lonely single people in Korea, couple shirts are all the rage and are very visible anywhere you go. You might get a couple ring for your Day Anniversary see below , to declare your love in ring form. Being a couple can be a highly public affair.
People around the world celebrate yearly anniversaries; really lovey-dovey couples celebrate monthly anniversaries; and unhealthily obsessed teenagers celebrate even more often. Of course the big yearly milestones are celebrated just the same. But instead of counting months, the Korean equivalents to the lovey-dovey couples that celebrate monthly will instead celebrate anniversaires in denominations of days i.
But this is definitely a Korean way to celebrate being in love. Note: Before you bust out your calendar to start counting each day, just use the day calculator on Naver! And even if your parents are totally liberal with the whole idea of their kids having… relations… in the room next door, the vast majority of Korean parents are NOT cool with it.
But when living with parents come as part the package, it changes things up a lot. You thought curfews were done when you went off to college. But in Korea, curfews are still relatively common for those still living with mommy and daddy. Curfew time up and need to go home by taxi? Hanging Outside. Some of the best dates can take place at home. You know the type: candles, wine, and Marvin Gaye. But in Korea, since so many people live with curious and nosey parents, many Koreans prefer to hang outside away from their family members.
So the majority of the time couples will spend with each other are outside of the home. Looking for more stuff to do on a date? We got you covered home slice! Check out these 25 Places to Go on a Date in Seoul. Parents Might Break You Up. But if things ever get really serious with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you might be talking about marriage. And when it comes to Korean marriages, parents usually have the final say. It sucks, but what can be said to the woman who carried a nine pound ham in her stomach for the better part of a year.
You win momma. But in Korea, you might not be introduced to friends either. It might be cool to hang out with your mutual friends from the photography class. I was already having fun reading the post, and then I just see George hahahaha Love Seinfeld! Oh my god, I just saw the page number! Korean culture is really fascinating, and really different from brazilian culture. Great memories! Still, I really love to learn more about himself and his own culture, I would never change him, no matter that things can be a little bit awkward sometimes because of cultural differences!
The only part who's annoying me is the curfews and his family's opinion about our relationship later…Things are starting to get serious, and he perfecly knows that on his side, their son moving to England and marrying a French girl in the next years maybe weren't exactly part of their plan!! But well, wait and see once again…Even if they're kinda conservative, I'm sure that we could also find a compromise somewhere, and make them accept us one day!
Anyway, great article once again! I love the way you write and explain stuffs as much as I love your videos! So yeah, midnight curfew for him…Haha, quite confusing the first time, especially because I lived abroad for years now far from my family and that kind of limitations!! Yeah, YEAH.
So if for daughters it would be worst. And I personally think the parents-might-break-you-apart is true.. I think this happens in every parents and their children BUT majority of this happening is especially BIG in all Asian countries… to be specific Asian parents… they have the tendency to meddle and yes nosy!!! Most asians ate each others. For instance: most Philipinos ate Japanese i think Japan soldiers were quite cruel on Pinoy during 2nd world war.
In the same way, but for other reasons most Japanese ate Chinese. I have very good time reading your posting. I think that is a good ways to think how to date a Korean Girl, but many thing are different from Laos, For example Culture, Society, Location, Lifestyle, religion, and the ways of thinking.
Point 11 also applies for dating. I was about to come to Seoul this summer to visit my girlfriend. I was shocked that she forced her to break up with me because I am not Korean. It is like years ago in Europe …. If only I read this before i met him….. But have noticed that everything in this article is very much true. Which totally shocked me as he is the eldest and I was told never date the oldest son haha. The handbag thing freaked me out! I was surprised when after a week of dating his mum wanted to meet me!
She liked me and my boyfriend is her only son! His aunt wanted to meet me too! But he was the one to kind of ignore the rules on PDA in the beginning. Am just sooooo curious about ur country n ur culture. But if he is too busy to run an errand for the family or if he passes up on a higher-paying job, we all better make a run for it before getting an earful.
That being said, Oma is the most generous woman and is just about the best cook on the planet. If you have an Oma in your life, consider yourself lucky. Somehow, though, I always persevere. Koreans now how to party. The only downside to kimchee is the way its pungent, fishy smell permeates the entire house upon opening the fridge. Having a Korean boyfriend means having a jar of kimchee at the ready to accompany any meal. Being spoiled is not always a bad thing.
Thought about splitting dish duty? He has other ideas. Life goes back in time slightly when he expects you to be the domestic goddess of his dreams, not-so-quietly reminding you of how spoiled you really are…thanks to him. Every time we sit down to eat, an all-out feast ensues. What to do? Watch Oma as she smears gochujang across her lettuce, piles on some white rice, spicy pork after dipping it in the oil, of course and a piece of kimchi, rolls it up and firmly shoves it into her mouth.
Now, do the same. Get used to eating feasts almost any time you get together — from Korean barbeque to cold bowls of naeng myun on a hot day. Your Korean boyfriend loves you. He pays the bills, and hell, he has even taken you to meet Oma. Even so, more and more you find yourself eating every meal on the floor, hiding money in the mattress, and eating rice at every meal.
Korean guys love their soap operas. The thicker the plot, the better. Bonus points for plots that include family drama and love stories. I think that covers just about every Korean soap opera out there. Korean guys can be a little bossy and controlling, but we see where that might come from Oma, perhaps? Koreans are expert no-bullshitting communicators, so be prepared and enter with a thick skin — or else. Koreans have super high expectations for themselves and for you. They want to succeed and want nothing more for you to succeed by their side.
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